Ask Dr. Jo

Homosexuality, biological or choice.

2009-01-25T20:46:00.000-08:00

I read an article in the Los Angeles Times titled "Study Links Male Gays, Birth of Older Brothers", on June 27, 2006, and although I am encouraged that there is more support for homosexuality as a biological condition instead of a life choice, my questions to the gay community would be: Is it possible to be sexually stimulated by the opposite sex? If so, under what conditions could you be sexually stimulated by the opposite sex? If you could change your sexual persuasion, would you? Were you ever angry at your parents for your homosexual condition? Dr.Jo, do you have any thoughts about this?

Help, I'm related to my boyfriend

2009-01-15T21:12:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Jo: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years and 6th months into it we found out we were related. Our families don't know but it’s a secret that has always been a problem with us. We're always afraid someone will find out. The blood relationship is not close but is existent, I know it’s late to ask but, what should we do.

Crack Cocaine Addiction

2009-01-10T15:09:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Jo: I have a crack cocaine addiction and have recently relapsed, again. I am currently going to 12 step meetings and counseling. My partner does not use and no longer wants to be with me, and since I have no where else to go I’m kind of stuck here and it hurts having to see him everyday. I know there is a lot of things in my past that I need to deal with but I’m not sure how.

Fat Hell

2009-01-10T15:06:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Jo: I am in a world of fat hell I have gained and lost 80 lbs at least 5 times. I can lose but can’t keep it off. I am fat again and am drowning!! I don’t eat when I’m hungry; I just stuff like I am trying to hurt myself. I have been up and down all my life from a size 8to24. I am codependent so that makes it worse.

Perfect Enabler

2009-01-06T11:01:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Jo: My partner went out and had sex with a complete stranger he met in the local library after I told him I was going to leave him for not stopping his abuse of me, alcohol, and cocaine. This (in my perspective) has been an abusive relationship, filled with his taking advantage of my paying bills, (being the perfect enabler). When I stop enabling, the volume gets very loud. We have been separated for a year because of this.

Anger problem

2009-01-06T10:51:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Jo: I am having trouble controlling my anger, which shows itself through yelling at my kids. I have a 4 and 8 year old that can sometimes push my buttons and cause me to be frustrated. Any suggestions?

Relationship with alcoholic

2008-12-21T15:26:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Jo: I have been in a relationship with an alcoholic for four years. I love her completely! It is tearing me apart to watch her self-destruct. She has been up and down during our relationship. She tells me she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, but does not know how to love. She also has custody of two wonderful girls. I have always tried to be there to help them with their mother, yet I don't know if I am capable of this. I know they love their mother, but her behavior is tearing them apart. The girls are 16 and 8. The older daughter is in and out of counseling, yet the youngest refuses to talk to anyone. What is the best way for me to help these girls? I love them as if they were my own.

Love without trust.

2008-12-21T14:13:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Jo: Is there such a thing as love without trust? I am very much in love with my partner; however, he lies to me about stupid stuff. He tells me he loves me all of the time, but it is hard for me to accept because I believe that people do not lie to people that they love. I want more than anything to believe him, but the lying makes me nervous.

Thanks

2008-12-18T01:03:00.000-08:00

Thanks to my sister-in-law Suzyla, I can talk all I want now. Check back later for more questions and answers from my advice column in Talk Magazine.